How to deal with baneful relationships

Relationships are always interesting and fun when they are smooth and it feels very interested when your partner is also your friend. However, if relationship starts becoming toxic between partners and still percevere, it brings an image of slavery and many find it difficult to cope and end in engaiging in acticities that put them into regrets afterwards.

No one wants to find themselves in relationships that are full of quarrels, misunderstandings and traumatizing. However, they rather get out of such relationships when it is too late.

When someone finds it difficult in relationship especially for the campus students, their natural reaction in such is to avoid dealing with situation. However its good to know how to deal with such toxic relationships

Bellow are some of the reasons why campus students find rough times in their toxic relationships and still tolerate :

1.Viewing toxity as normal

Most people get themselves in abusive relationships and not able to know how to cope with such incidences. This is because they normalize everything and consider every step to be normal and they see nothing wrong about it.

However no matter how you try to fight for them and explain to them their relationships are not going well they may never get to your point of view .

2. Financial dependency

When one partner is dependent over the other especially in terms of money, he/she finds it difficult to leave the relationship when it becomes toxic and abusive. However its hard for a relationship to last with one partner dependent over the other because it leads to one being undermined and some being considered as spendthrifts.

3. Dinial

Obviously it is hard to believe the person you mostly loved and gave an opportunity to be your other half can turn to be toxic and abusive to you but that is what most people exlerience in most relationships especially in campus. In this, most people will tend to percevere hoping for their pertners to change their attitudes towards them.

Because of this denial, many tend to stay in such relationships and no matter the disapointments they get, they find themselves forgiving them in the name of love. This makes on to live in a relationship like a slave because no matter the challenges, they still decide to stay.

4. Fear

When a relationship is over, it means one has to start up a new relationship with adifferent person and this is what most people tend to avoid and this is one of the reasons why partners stay in an abusive relationship for a long time .

New relationship means one has to know the partner well and also understand them better. This definitely takes a lot of time before they get used to each other and that is why many find it difficult to find a sustainable relationship and choose to stay in a toxic one .

However, there is always a way to avoid finding yourself in such a toxic and abusive relationship and finding for yourself a partner who really matches your aspirations.

The following are some of the ways that will make you choose a healthy relationship:

Avoid Investing Yourself Emotionally

Avoid giving much attention to a toxic partner because they may try to bait you into feeling sympathetic for them.

This allows them to continue mistreating you for they know no matter the situation they will still apologise and you forgive them. Do not be much expectant emotionally to them.

Pick Your Battles

Don’t let everything that the toxic partner does get a rise out of you. Even if it hurts, try to stay calm or walk away if you can’t. Toxic people enjoy pushing your buttons so the more you respond the more they undermine you.

Heal Individually

Before trying to fix a toxic relationship, start by healing yourself.You can seek counselling separately to help you heal. Once you’re in a healthy space mentally, you’ll be able to make better decisions and handle a toxic relationship better.

Take Responsibility

You may also be contributing to the toxic environment knowingly or unknowingly. For instance, they may threaten you to do something and by doing it, you engage their behaviour. Your response to such negative behaviours could be furthering the toxic dynamic. Be more conscious of your actions and reactions around the toxic person. This way, you may be able to handle the situation